Tell Me A Story, Baby

So, I did this thing.

It was years ago and basically just a part of my constant desperation to entertain my kids and keep things merry and bright in a land where Christmas means 90 degree weather.

This was five years ago.  Ellie was 5.  Scott was 3.  Lucy was just a little thing that lay around and looked cute.

I made a big paper chain and wrote an activity on each ring and we pulled one off every day in December and did the activity. This was not an original idea, obviously. Surprise! I didn’t invent advent! But seriously, it was magical. It spread the fun and excitement of Christmas out over the course of weeks instead of just one or two days. We’ve been doing something like it every year since.

And then! Because it is really hard to make up 24 activities (and because I really hate crafts and so can only do a very, VERY few), I made random activities like this one: Everyone uses the plastic nativity set to tell the story of Baby Jesus. Mommy videos these stories and posts them online. The kids loved telling the story. They loved being on video. It was a happy half hour. Then I posted them and the grandparents far away in another country could see the little darlings. Fun, easy, no prep necessary, no cleanup necessary. Basically the perfect activity.

And that was before I knew how it would feel to watch those videos five years later.

You guys. That thing I did? It was one of the best things I’ve ever done. Watching them now? No words.

They’re a bit long, so if you can’t make it through them all, I understand. But it would be a crime not to post them here at all. A serious crime.

Here is Ellie, age 5. Her version is very sweet and conscientious.

Here is Scott, age 3. His version includes a flying donkey and is all told in his adorably raspy little voice. It kills me.

We didn’t have one of Lucy from back then, of course, but after the wonder of watching those, we made one of her this year. Oh yes. Now, she was slightly influenced by having watched the other videos a few days before, but the king who tried to make the wise men his slaves? That’s all her own.

Enough of our cuteness. Go make your own!

Seriously.

Go make your own.

In five years, you’ll be so glad you did.

P.S. If you don’t have an unbreakable nativity set that your kids can play with, buy one now! They are the best for storytelling. The best. In addition to that weird brown plastic one in the videos (which I bought at an Argentine dollar store) we have the Playmobile set. The 8 and 10-year-old still play with it. Highly recommend. Or get this little one. It’s cute and inexpensive.

Let There Be Books (The Holiday Gift Guide)

It’s Black Friday, and I wish you a warm fire in the coziness of your own home. I wish you brilliant turkey bacon grilled cheese sandwiches and all your Christmas presents bought online.

That’s not just an idle wish, either. I can’t send you the grilled cheese, but I can help you out a bit with that Christmas shopping. What’s the little saying I’m always seeing these days? “Something they want, something they need, something to wear, something to read.” We’ve got the “something to read” covered. Check it out (and just click on the image if you want to buy it right away):

1.  For the little guys.  Mac Barnett is one of my son’s favorite authors.  Such a great sense of humor.  I’m thinking of pairing it with this for fun.

2.  For the Lego Lovers among us.  If they can read, even better, but the pictures are the awesome part of this one.

3. For any young reader. It’s little enough to be a stocking stuffer and short enough to be read in those two boring hours between presents and Christmas dinner. Also check out Neil Gaiman’s other books. I love this one.

4. For the future Jane Austen lover. With the added bonus that this book just looks like Christmas.

5. For the hard-to-shop for preteen. It’s educational AND cool. Win.

6. For the teenage crowd. This is the best non-Hunger Games series I’ve read yet. It’s not as well-known as some, so your teen probably hasn’t read it yet, and it’s clean and awesome, so you can buy it for your niece without horrifying your brother-in-law.

7. For your budding storytellers. If they just need a little help getting going, this book will walk them through the process. Fun illustrations and great layout.

8. For your sister. She probably already loves Rainbow Rowell, and this book (her latest) is a love story for married grownups. That’s an unusual genre of book, and it’s lovely (which is just what you expect from Rowell by now).

9. For your sci-fi loving brother. Or your hipster brother-in-law. Or the inscrutable literary fiction lover. It works on many levels. Cat’s Cradle: A Novel
is the best old-book-I-should-have-already-read that I got around to this year. It’s short (reads super quickly) but full of win. You can see how many other sci-fi works have borrowed from Vonnnegut. Pair it with his letters, which tell his life story, and you’ve got some great hours of reading.

Happy shopping, everyone! And happy laying around eating leftovers. And happy putting up Christmas trees.

And (because it’s okay if you just bought them for yourself), happy reading!

Ode to Pie

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Pie, oh, pie
I will not lie
I could eat you ’til I die
Oh sweet, sweet pie

Cherry, you’re delightful
You’re a gift from heav’n above
You are tart and you are sweet
But it’s your ruby red I love

Pie, oh pie
I will not lie
I could eat you ’til I die
Oh sweet, sweet pie

Apple, you’re a classic
You are warm and fill my soul
With your cinnamony goodness
Each wholesome bite makes me feel whole

Pie, oh pie
I will not lie
I could eat you ’til I die
Oh sweet, sweet pie

Pecan, you’re kind of quirky
Your nutty outside is forbidding
Rich, sticky sweetness rewards the daring
and no need to share you with the kidlings

Pie, oh pie
I will not lie
I could eat you ’til I die
Oh sweet, sweet pie

Pumpkin, you’re the king of pies
You make me feel like I am wealthy
Smooth and spicy, but best of all things
I can tell myself you’re healthy

Pie, oh pie
I will not lie
I could eat you ’til I die
Oh sweet, sweet pie

More Monday Morning Treasure

That’s right, I’ve got another stash for you, to brighten up your holiday week.  If you’re in the middle of the rush, put a pin in it.  These will make a nice little break while the turkey’s roasting (or when you’ve disappeared into a back room to escape the relatives).

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  • As promised, we saw Mockingjay this weekend.  It totally won me over.  I won’t add any spoilers here, but I did learn that Suzanne Collins had a hand in the plotting, which explains why this movie had its own arc and was satisfying, even though it was only half of the book.  On a side note, it was heartbreaking to watch Phillip Seymour Hoffman doing his amazing thing.  Completely heartbreaking.
  • My kids are off school this whole week (I know!  It WAS just a few weeks ago that they had two weeks off.  The joys of year-round school.) so we’re getting all festive around here.  This season makes me want to make up stories that mock the famous Christmas tales.  Why is that?  Anyway, I’ll resist, but mostly because this already IS the parody you’re looking for.  CLICK IT.
  • Speaking of the holidays, this is a wonderful idea for a gift for your child.  It can’t be wrapped up under the tree, but how amazing would it be?
  • And on the topic of children’s books, we feel this way about book jackets, too.
  • This story going around on Facebook has me thinking of the power of real life stories.  It’s all about really seeing people.
  • While we’re thinking about other cultures, check out these idioms from around the world.  I want to find ways to casually drop these into conversation during this holiday season.
  • If that doesn’t liven up the conversation enough, I’m going to make one of these napkins for our Thanksgiving table, but with my own topics of conversation.  The man who invented this was a genius.
  • Something beautiful for you before you go.  Kilian Schoenberger’s photography is stunning.  The Scotland pictures are going to be inspiring me for a long time.  That one above filled me up better than a Thanksgiving dinner.

Happy week, all!

Seriously, It’s Worthy of the Book

We’re going to see the new Hunger Games movie today, and it’s got me thinking about all of my favorite books-turned-movies.  We need to get into this, I think.  This is a very important topic.

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I really like movies.  Maybe not quite as much as books, but almost.  It’s because medium is not the issue.  Stories are the issue.  And good movies tell a story just as well (though quite a bit differently) as good books.  Someday we’ll dish on my all time favorite movies, but for today let’s just stick with the ones that were based on my all-time favorite books.

In fact, let’s narrow it down even more, and let’s deal with movies based on children’s and YA books.  We’ll do the adult version (why does that have to sound icky?) some other day.

To be clear from the start, the main thing I’m looking for when they take one of my favorite books and make it into a movie is that it capture the essence of the book.  It has to get the feeling right.   I’m not a crazy purist.  The medium is so different that it’s okay to mess around with the actual facts and features a little, but you have to keep the heart of it.  When you crush that, you ruin the whole thing.

Agreed?

Okay, let’s do this.  I’ll give you an overall rating for the movies that are in a series, but I’m going to have to add individual ratings for each movie, as well.  Each one will be given a letter grade on how it holds up as a movie all by itself, on how it adapts the story, and on how it captures the essence of the book.  I’m taking this seriously, people.

A+ (It Elevated the Book)

The Chronicles of Narnia – These movies get this category to themselves.  Here’s the deal:  those books are really short and (I say this with great love as I am a huge fan) lacking in depth and detail.  The movies round them out and give them life.  They are wonderful movies.  I absolutely recommend kids watching the movies even before they read the books, and if you keep reading, you’ll see that that’s really saying something.

  • The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe – A+ as a movie on its own merit.  The moment where Lucy meets Mr. Tumnus is pure magic.  A for straight up story adaption.  I’ve never seen a movie that so closely sticks to the book.  A+ for capturing the essence.  Just really.  Whoever made this movie loved this book. You can tell.
  • Prince Caspian – B+ as a movie on its own merit.  Solid, and with a few moments of greatness (mostly just Edmund) but not over the moon.  B for story adaption.  It departed a bit, but not too significantly.  A for capturing the essence.  The conflict between Peter and Caspian is the heart of this story, and they got it.
  • The Voyage of the Dawn Treader – A as a movie.  This was always my favorite story of all the books and it makes a great tale on the big screen, too.  B- for story adaption.  They had to invent a bad guy (or in this case, a bad mist).  It was necessary, but it changed things.  A for capturing the essence.  The stuff with Eustace is perfect.  And Lucy’s self-discovery.  And Caspian really growing up.  It’s great.

A (The Experience Isn’t Complete Until You’ve Seen the Movie)

Harry Potter – We love these movies.  Not as much as the books, but very, very much.  We come back to them time and again.  BUT.  I definitely made my kids wait until we had finished each book before watching the corresponding movie.  It was the right move.  There are so many, I’ll be brief in the breakdown:

  • The Sorcerer’s Stone – A on its own merit, A for adapting the story, A+ for capturing the essence (it’s so darn magical)
  • The Chamber of Secrets –B on its own merit (to be fair, this is my least favorite book, too), A for adapting the story (it was a simple one, so it worked pretty well), A for capturing the essence (what there was to capture)
  • The Prisoner of Azkaban – C on its own merit (I didn’t like this movie much.  It was a good book, but they didn’t do a good job in the movie of making sense of it all.) C for adapting the story (again, it’s complicated.  You have to make sense of it), B for capturing the essence (the important stuff was mostly there)
  • The Goblet of Fire – A+ on its own merit (This is a fantastic movie), B for adapting the story (it’s such a long book, I give them a pass, but it doesn’t stick to the facts too closely), A+ for capturing the essence (this book was a turning point in the series and so is the movie.  And Hermione.  She’s wonderful.)
  • The Order of the Phoenix – A on its own merit , B for adapting the story, A for capturing the essence (because the parts with the D.A. are perfect.)
  • The Half-Blood Prince – B on its own merit (not bad, just completely forgettable), B for adapting the story, B for capturing the essence
  • The Deathly Hallows (Pt1) – B on its own merit (those scenes with Harry and Hermione in the tent really drag it down), A for adapting the story, A for capturing the essence (It’s just that the essence is so dreary.  It’s hard to take without the second half.)
  • The Deathly Hallows (Pt2) – A on its own merit (Just really wonderful), B for adapting the story (they had to break away from the actual events a little to make it work), A+ for capturing the essence (It’s note perfect.  Really.)

The Hunger Games  – I haven’t let my kids read these yet, and they’ll definitely wait on the movies until they have.  I can’t wait.

  • The Hunger Games – A on its own merit.  Just such a great film.  A for adapting the story. I was worried that it would be impossible because so much of the book is inside Katniss’s head, but Jennifer Lawrence totally pulls it off.  Other than being condensed, this is dead on.  A+ for capturing the essence.  One word.  Rue.
  • Catching Fire – A on its own merit.  A for adapting the story.  A++ for capturing the essence.  This movie really brought the book alive.  I was pretty blown away when I saw it.  So now I’m nervous about Mockingjay because how can it measure up?

Lord of the Rings – I’m in the middle of tormenting my kids with making them get through the books before watching the movies.  No regrets, though.  Those books are a masterpiece.  If you watch the movie and then ever read the book, you’ve basically committed a crime.  BUT, once you’ve read the book, you should definitely watch the movies.  They are wonderful.  I’m not breaking these down, because it’s basically all one long story.  A+ on its own merit.  If you like long movies, these are basically perfect.  A on adaption of story.  This was an epically difficult job, and they totally pulled it off.  Of course, it doesn’t stick perfectly to every detail (The Two Towers really should get a C here, because its the worst), but considering the scope, it’s amazingly faithful.  A+ on capturing the essence.  The work they put into the world, to the details of the different cultures, really reflects Tokien’s vision.  And it’s just stunning.

B (You’ll Enjoy this Movie But Not In The Same Way As The Book)

A Series of Unfortunate Events – My kids saw this movie before they read the books, but that didn’t stop them from totally enjoying both.  The movie only covers the first three books and changes quite a few things, but it’s so weird and delightful that it’s okay.  A on its own merit (the moment where they create a sanctuary is perfect in every way), C for adapting the story (they didn’t even really try to be faithful), A+ for capturing the essence.  They nailed the feeling of the books exactly.

Anne of Green Gables – Basically the first movie is lovely and faithful and you should watch it (before or after the books, it won’t really matter) and the second movie is okay as a movie but has nothing to do with the books, and the weird third movie should be avoided at all costs.  I’m not giving these grades because the above is really all I have to say about it.

Ender’s Game – Solid movie, but this book needed to be a miniseries.  A movie just didn’t have time to make you really buy his genius as a leader, and without that, something was lacking.  It was pretty faithful, but they were forced to skip over so much of his battle school experiences, and that weakened his character and the overall impact of the movie.  A- on its own merit, B for adapting the story, B for capturing the essence.

The Hobbit – Not nearly as faithful as The Lord of the Rings.  In fact, though I liked the first movie, the second one disappointed me enough that I’m not even excited to see the third.  I’m treating these as one, as well.  A- on its own merit.  Still better than most movies out there.  C for adapting the story.  It’s not the stuff they leave out.  They have to leave stuff out to condense to movie form.  It’s the stuff they add in that kill it (I’m looking at you, weird elf/dwarf love scenario).  B for capturing the essence.  They are doing a good job showing the growth of Bilbo’s character and of tying this in with The Lord of the Rings which is great, but they’re getting a little lost in the huge set pieces, which is pulling the focus away from the there and back again nature of the book.

F (This Will Ruin A Book You Love)

Where the Wild Things Are – If all the weird adaptions of Dr. Seuss books have taught us anything, its that you really shouldn’t try to put a picture book into a movie (unless you are doing a cartoon short a la The Grinch Who Stole Christmas) As a full-length movie, it’s a disaster.  This movie was actually painful.  Which didn’t just make me sad.  It made me mad because I love that book.

I’m sure we could do a bunch more, but I’ll leave it at that.  I mean, we could dish about this all day, and I’d never be tired of it.  But Mockingjay is waiting.

What do you think?  Am I wrong about these?  What am I missing?  Any other movies that really capture your favorite kids’ books?  Bring it on.

Happy Thanks Day

Sarah woke up on Thanksgiving morning and sniffed the air expectantly.  No scent of roasting turkey reached her nose.  She lifted her head off the pillow, listening for the sound of the TV showing the big parade.  All should could hear was a strange humming sound.

It all came back to her in a rush.  She wasn’t at home.  She was at Carrie’s house, down the street.  Her mom and dad were in the hospital, taking care of the new little baby.  She could see them later this afternoon, but for now, she was spending her favorite holiday at the neighbors.  Sarah tried hard not to cry.

“Happy Thanks Day!” shouted a voice in her ear.

Sarah jumped, hitting her head on the bunk above her.  Carrie was hanging over the edge, grinning down at her.  Her bright red hair stuck out around her ears.  She flipped off the top bunk.  “Come on!  Let’s head downstairs!  I can hear Freddy already.”

“Shouldn’t we get dressed and comb our hair first?” asked Sarah.

“Not me!” Carrie said.  “You know what I’m thankful for? Pajamas!  You know what I”m not thankful for?  Combs!”  She raced out of  the room.

Sarah followed more slowly.

At the bottom of the stairs, Carrie was laughing and ducking as her big brother Freddy flew a remote controlled airplane around the room.  That explained the humming sound.  The plane swooped close to Sarah’s head and she jerked away, heart pounding.  Was he trying to hit her?  She chose a low chair in the corner, hoping to stay out of the way, while Carrie begged for a turn.  In Carrie’s hands, the toy flew even more dangerously.  She knocked over a lamp, which didn’t break, and then an old vase, which did.  At that exact moment, Carrie’s mother came down the stairs.  Sarah sighed with relief.  Now Carrie would have to put away the airplane.

“Happy Thanks Day!” said Carrie’s mom.  “Oh dear, the vase is broken!  Well, fortunately, I was never very thankful for that vase.  Get the broom, Freddy!”

“I’m not thankful for sweeping,” Freddy said.

“You’d be even less thankful for cutting your foot on broken glass.”

“Good point!” he said, laughing, and began to sweep up the mess.  “I’m also super thankful for a helpful little sister,” he said as he finished up.

Carrie held the dustpan for him.

‘I’m thankful for sunshine!” Carrie said when they were done.  She and Freddy ran to the door and yanked it open.  Outside it was snowing, a light fluffy snow, just the kind that Sarah loved.  If she was at home, she would bundle up in her orange Thanksgiving sweater and her hat and mittens and winter coat and go out to play.

“I’m not thankful for snow,” said Freddy, shutting the door firmly.

“Me either,” Carrie said.  “But I am thankful for forts!”

Brother and sister got busy piling every blanket and pillow in the house on the living room floor.  When they started building, they called Sarah in to help.  She had certainly never heard of making such a mess on Thanksgiving morning.  Didn’t they have guests coming over soon?  But no grown ups said anything, so the kids built the biggest, most elaborate fort Sarah had ever seen.  It was fun.  So much fun that she forgot it was Thanksgiving and that everything was wrong.

“Who’s thankful for spaghetti?!” sang Carrie’s dad, coming out of the kitchen with a heaping platter.

“Me!” shouted everyone, rushing toward the table.

Sarah poked her head out of the fort.  Spaghetti?  For Thanksgiving?  Where was the turkey?  She joined the others at the table, staring wide-eyed at the garlic bread and meatballs.

“Guests first!” announced Carrie’s mom.  “Sarah, are you thankful for spaghetti?”

“Um…yes, but…”

“But what, dear?”

“Isn’t there any turkey?” Sarah mumbled, though it came out sounding more like “Uma ena turkey?”

“Oh, of course, you must be surprised.  But no one in this house is thankful for turkey.  We are very, very thankful for Harold’s spaghetti and meatballs, however.”

Sarah nodded, trying to look like this made sense.  Wasn’t turkey what the pilgrims ate?  Wasn’t that the point of Thanksgiving?  To remember the pilgrims?  She watched Carrie’s dad pile spaghetti and bread on all the plates.  It was unnatural.

It was also delicious.

The meal was long and loud.  (“I’m thankful for music!” shouted Freddy before belting out the Spider Man theme song.)  There was quite a bit of mess. (“I”m thankful for laughter!” giggled Carrie after snorting so hard that milk came out of her nose.)  Dessert was heaping bowls of ice cream with lots of toppings.  (“I’m thankful for cherries!” said Carrie’s mom as she put fourteen of them on her ice cream.)  It felt strange not to be eating pie, but Sarah did discover that chocolate sauce and caramel sauce blended together was the best taste on earth.

When they were finally finished, Carrie’s parents pushed their chairs back.  “I’m thankful for paper plates,” said Carrie’s mom, dumping everything from the table into the trash.  That explained the lack of china.

“I’m thankful for neighbors with new babies!” said Carrie’s dad.  “Ready to go see your baby sister, Sarah?”

Sarah looked down at her pajamas, now stained with sauce in a few places.  She nodded reluctantly.

It was a short drive to the hospital, and a long walk up all the stairs to the room where Sarah’s family waited.  Sarah pushed open the door.  Her mother was still on the hospital bed, a little bundle of blankets in her arms.  Her father sat in a chair nearby, a plate of turkey and stuffing on a tray in his lap.  They both looked up and smiled.

All of a sudden, it felt like Thanksgiving.

Sarah ran to her mother and buried her face next to the sweet-smelling bundle that was her little sister.  “Happy Thanks Day,” she whispered.  “I’m thankful for you.”

Then she sat on her dad’s lap and told them all about spaghetti and ice cream and the best and weirdest Thanksgiving ever.

 

 

I’m Boring But This Is Not

I had a long, thoughtful post about storytelling as a way to teach more effectively all planned out in my head, but sadly today I am not interesting.  It happens.  I pounded out 2,000 words of my novel this morning and I’m pretty sure I’ll end up cutting every last one in the editing process. I began my thoughtful blog post, and realized I was boring myself.  My thoughts are flat today. Maybe my brain is frozen. It is, after all, 20 degrees outside.

Luckily for us, the internet is full of extremely not boring people and things.

I found this for you (and by you, I mean me, of course).  It’s just…well, let’s say that when I’m really into a book, I become this other person, a troll sort of person, who gets very angry if you drag me out from under my bridge. I try to hide it, but it’s a problem. And I may or may not have passed this particular characteristic on to my daughter. So really. This.

The bagpipes at the end. It could not be more perfect.

I’m going to go read a book now. If you interrupt, I’ll probably make that angry face.

But at least angry isn’t boring. So there’s that.

 

Fortunately, this Book

So I mentioned to some friends the other day that I wanted to find someone to do pen and ink drawings to go along with a short story I’m working on.  I had this idea that it would be cool to have simple drawings but have them interact with the words.

“So, have you seen Neil Gaiman’s Fortunately, the Milk?” the friend asked right away.

No, but I liked the sound of that.  I’m a fan of Neil Gaiman.

The next day I looked up the book and immediately bought it.

It is exactly…exactly…the sort of thing I’d envisioned (though admittedly on a slightly bigger scale). And somehow my friend knew that instantly.

My friends are so much cooler than I am.

You guys, this book.  It is wonderful.  I’m already thinking of all the kids in my life who need it for Christmas.  I mean, not my own kids, because the second they saw it lying on my desk, they were all over the title and the cover illustration and had read the whole book before I even knew what was happening.

Here, take a look at it really big and you’ll see why:

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Yes, that is a dinosaur in a hot air balloon. Yes, there is a mysteriously wonderful red button about to be pushed.  Yes, the main character is sporting a manic grin and a fabulous scarf, not to mention the ever important bottle of milk.  You know you want to know what’s up with that milk.

The whole book is like this, you guys.  The story is super fun.  Quirky and strange, which you would expect from Neil Gaiman, but the kind of weird that made both me and my kids laugh out loud.  And the illustrations (done by Skottie Young) have the exact same feeling.  I hate to use the overworked word whimsical, but they are.  Simple, too, but with enough detail to be fascinating.

The best part is the way the words and illustrations interact.  I can’t get enough of it.

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I won’t give away any more, but every page is a delight.  Every page, people.

It’s a small book, a quick read even for a kid, and if you know anyone aged 8-12, you should buy them this book.

In my not-at-all-pushy opinion.

(Unless you know the same kids I do. Then ask me first. I probably already bought it for them.)

Oh, did I mention that it’s all about a dad making up a story for his kids?  Yeah.  It is.

Thank you, Neil Gaiman. You’re my hero.

(And if any of you like to do pen and ink drawings, I have this odd little story I’d like to talk to you about…)

If My Life Were a Book

If my life were a book
I like to think
You would laugh out loud as you read it through
In part from the witty things that I say
But also from mixups along the way
And the weird, funny people I knew

If my life were a book
I sincerely hope
It would sometimes make you want to cry
Because people came close, right up into the heart
To the place that will bleed when it must come apart
And you stand there just wondering why

If my life were a book
I sort of suspect
You’d get angry at points and then hurl it away
Because life isn’t fair and some people aren’t kind
And at times I am lazy and waste my own mind
And you don’t want to read of those days

If my life were a book
I’ll admit I would like
It to often inspire you to go make a snack
In the warm, snuggly evenings of fullness and cheer
As you read of good food and of friends gathered near
You should fill up whatever you lack

If my life were a book
Oh I really do hope
There’d be some shining moments that jolt you awake
Where the miracles happen and magic unfolds
Where corners are turned, victories won by the bold
Your heart pounds and your hands start to shake

If my life were a book
My only true fear
Is for you to feel nothing as you skim its lines
Because nothing much happened and nothing was risked
Your mind wanders as you hide a yawn with your fist
It falls closed and it slips from your mind

Kid Interview: Bedtime Stories

This is National Young Readers Week.  Who knew?  A bunch of librarians and a few teachers, that’s who.  Also me, because I live in a bubble world where I have time to pay attention to such things and then let you know about them.  I do it for you, people.

I could talk on and on about reading to young children, but I think all the grownups have already said quite a lot on the topic.  We all know that we’re supposed to read our kids books before bed, and we’ve all heard what that can do for their reading development.  Instead, I decided to ask my kids a few questions about bedtime stories.  I also asked my daughter’s best friend (a serious reader) for her thoughts, since she was with us at the time.

Their thoughts first.  Then mine (because of course I’m not going to say actually nothing).

Where is your favorite place to read?

Lucy (5): In my end of the day spot at school

Scott: (8): In my room, on my bed

Ellie (10): Under a willow tree or in the library [Note: I was unaware that she had much experience reading under willow trees, but I will allow that it’s a lovely idea.]

Ellie’s friend (10): In my bed

Would you rather read to yourself at bedtime or be read to?

Lucy (5): At home, I like to have someone read to me. [Note: this is fairly obvious, since she can’t read yet.]

Scott, Ellie, Friend: Read to myself [Note: the “duh” was implied in all three cases.]

If someone is going to give you a bedtime story, would you rather they read you a book or tell you a story out of their head.  Why?

Lucy (5):  Scary story out of somebody’s head

Scott (8): Out of their head because that way I can’t look at the book at what they are about to read.  I can’t see what’s in their head.

Ellie (10): Told a story they made up

Friend (10): Told a story out of their head

What do you think makes the best kind of bedtime story?

Lu (5): Scary princess stories

Scott (8): Adventurous and funny just because I like those better all the time

Ellie (10): A funny story.  I feel like at nighttime, I need something to make me laugh.

Friend (10): Funny or happy.  If it was scary, I wouldn’t be able to sleep.

Can you remember your favorite book that people read to you when you were little?  What was it?

Lu (5) Right now, Pete the Cat.  When I was little, I don’t remember.

Scott (8): [thinks a very long time] I don’t remember.

Ellie (10): I don’t remember

Friend (10): These Sesame Street books.  I don’t remember what they were called or the details.

In a picture book for kids, which is more important: the written story or the illustrations?  Which needs to be really good to make it a great book?

Lucy (5): The words because you know in like scary stories, you can still tell what’s happening from pictures but you don’t know for sure what the author meant without the words

Scott (8): The written story. The point isn’t really the pictures.

Ellie (10): The writing because that is more interesting than the pictures.

Friend (10): The story

Don’t know about you, but I found bits of that quite interesting , and I do mean other than the fact that my 5-year-old is obsessed with scary stories.

First, I apologize to artists everywhere.  I’m pretty sure their answer to that last question represents a bias I have handed down to them.  I won’t claim that their answers are representative of all kids.  (I will admit that Scott saying the point is the story and not the pictures was extremely satisfying, though.)

The most interesting piece of all of this  was how they all emphatically preferred a made-up bedtime story to a story out of a book.  I’d love to explore that one further with them and in other research.  In fact, I think I will.  But it does speak powerfully for the art of storytelling.  Books are great, but I suspect that what kids love is the personal connection of a story that comes from inside you.  It’s more spontaneous.  It’s more unpredictable (as per Scott’s reasoning).  It’s more about the relationship than even the fun of the story.  Storytelling is awesome.

Also, for those of you with little kids, take note of the fact that my big kids now greatly prefer reading to themselves and don’t even have clear memories of those picture books they once made me read over and over.  That does NOT mean that those times were wasted.  In fact, I think it’s the opposite.  The reason they love reading to themselves now (rather than struggling with reading and therefore still wanting to be read to) is largely because of all that time we read to them.  And the fact that they don’t still cling fondly to those picture books is because they’ve been pushed out of their minds by the chapter books they now consume so happily.  What this perspective does bring, though, is freedom.  The act of reading together is what mattered, not what we read.  So, parents of toddlers, you can dump the books that drive you crazy!  It’s quite all right.

This whole book thing is like the rest of parenthood.  Hours and hours I put into reading the same old inane picture books.  And now?  I can still quote every word of Hippos Go Beserk (which to be clear, was one of the good ones), and they don’t even remember that we used to read it.  But they DO still love to read and they DO still love to sit on my lap.  Not at the same time anymore (which frankly is good, because now they have all these long limbs that get in the way), but those hours paid off.

It’s not about what they remember.  It’s about who they’ve become.

They’ve become people who want to sit and read under willow trees, at least in their imaginations.  They’ve become people who want to snuggle into bed and listen to a scary princess story before sleep.  These are people I’m really glad to know.

(Though now I’m going to have to work on my scary princess stories.  It’s a very specific genre.  Ideas?)